Why Women?!

I wanted to update my blog with a couple of recipes…but since my head muddled up thinking about the recent event in Birmingham….I wanted to write the hell out about the psychological mess I am undergoing!

I was speaking with my mom when she told me more about the news…of how the guy after killing Jyothirmayee, self-inflicted injuries to avoid any doubts of his involvement in the murder. I was asking S why a girl would want a relationship with a psycho as himself in the first place. Probably she did not know he’d turn out to be like this. Not her fault. Now that she is gone…it is her family who have been punished for life. How can a human being be so selfish that he/she can think only about himself/herself and is ready to ruin anything that comes in his/her way?

Why didn’t God give the same strength to women to protect themselves as He/She gave to a man? Why is it that a woman is always molested or raped…? Why is it that a woman has to listen to vulgar talk while walking on the road inspite of wearing a shalwar kameez? Why is it that a woman is disfigured, tortured and sometimes killed if she doesn’t accept a man’s advances/demand for love or lust? Why is she tortured and murdered if she does not pay dowry to her husband and her family…..and the most sorrowful fate of all: she is killed even before she is born!

Be it Ayesha’s murder case which has now taken a political turn or the gruesome murder of a 10th class student Mendu Lakshmi who was all of 15 yrs old by her 19 year old neighbour all because she did not accept his advances, a woman undergoes pain that is unimaginable. If we dig history…thousands of such cases will come up…most of them still in courts after tens of years. In a country like India, where law is in the hands of the rich and powerful….middle-class families have to see generations of their off-spring perish before a verdict is reached!


Pic Courtesy: Cornell.edu

So….what am I upto these days??

  • Updating my orkut profile with my favourite videos
  • Going on long walks with friends
  • Watching old telugu movies (as of now…its Subhakankshalu)
  • and moan about all the things in my life which are getting complicated day by day

Guess life cannot get anymore boring!

I’ve been really busy with people visiting us and us visiting people since I have returned from India. S and I haven’t had a single weekend alone. I am off again to Shef this weekend to attend Shef Uni’s cultural evening. I used to love dressing up for these occasions when I was at Uni. Now that I’ve given up university life, my very good frnd has invited me to visit her and go on a trip down memory lane.

I have always been a very loud person…I laugh loud and talk loud. I yell and dance when someone is performing anything I like….esp when it is Indian and it’s cultural evening. I am excited. Personally, Shef has a very important place in my heart as that is where S and I met for the first time. Shef was my home away from home for three years. I was just 18 when I left home (India) and travelled abroad to study. With parents 1000 of miles away….the only family I had was my brother and my friends. It was tough in the beginning..coping with being alone, understanding the accent of pple around me. But when all the memories come rushing back, I realise how lucky I am to have such a beautiful life. There were times when I was down and out but all those experiences have made me the person I am today….independent, self-reliant and simple 🙂

Sheffield City Centre (Square) at night